Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Such is life...


Well, most of you know we recently moved dance studios...Yes, it was a hard move to make and yes, we lost friends that I thought we would never lose, but such is life. I had to make a very hard decision after we were treated very poorly at Hailey's last dance competition. I told myself that I could put up with whatever came my way as long as Hailey was happy. Well, at the last competition when Hailey got into the car and was crying about some comments made, or not made, friends hurting her, and how she didn't want to dance anymore I knew I had to make a decision...should we stay or should we go? Hailey in her 6 years of dancing has never said she didn't want to dance anymore...NEVER! She was completely left out of things, from friends who she loved and who I loved as well...She did amazing at her competition, she was the only one from that studio to receive a diamond(the highest points you could score,) she also was in the top 10 in her age group, won her category, and got a judges choice award...and not one of her teachers told her good job...it was sad and broke my heart. It also broke her's, so, I decided that night of her solo's that we were done and throughout the weekend it was evident that we needed to be somewhere else. Where she was going to be appreciated and where the mom's weren't going to be running the show. I can only handle so much from mom's who think they get to make decisions about my daughter's dancing. It should be left up to the teachers whom opinions I valued, but unfortunately there mom's are picking music, costumes, and who goes on what team. That is not a place I want my child. It was an unfair environment for her or for me. The "in circle" there is not really "in," no, they are mean, nasty, back stabbing individuals who need to grow up and quit living life vicariously through their beautiful children. I've lost some amazing friends along the way and 2 amazing teachers. But that is the price I had to pay to get her into a healthy environment. I will always be grateful for the things she learned from her teachers there and the values the studio owner instilled in her, the teacher's aren't the reason we left...the drama is...I know the grass is always greener on the other side, but that's the chance I'm willing to take to get away from some very nasty people. Needless to say Hailey is happy, she is thriving and once again her smile has returned to her dancing! She is doing some amazing things at her new studio, her teachers are in awe and so am I. That's all I wanted for her was for her to be happy and be learning. I've learned my lesson, I will not be getting close to the teachers or the mother's at the new studio. I want them to have an un-bias impression of my daughter, and form their impressions by how hard she works, and trust me she is working her tooshie off right now. I want to teach my daughter the value of dancing and characteristics that she can use as she grows! I know there will be speed bumps and hurdles along the way...there always are! :)

Now, on to Jay...he moved to a new team as well the beginning of Spring. He is so happy there, he loves his coach and the boys on this team are really great! They have all accepted him, and cheer for him. He's learning that he has to prove himself right now being the "new kid" and I'm hoping that he will rise to the challenge! He has struggled a little with his confidence since it was shattered by his last team but slowly he is gaining it back and it's so nice to see him improve! I know he will do great things, we just have to keep him on the right path. Who knew parenting a teenage boy would be so difficult!?!? :) Since he broke his arm, he's been a little passive but his new coach is teaching him in a way that has really helped his confidence! His arm is about at 90% right now and Jay hasn't been able to play basket ball which really upset him. But I think he will be able to start playing come summer and you all know I can't wait for that! He's got a lot to catch up on since he missed last basket ball season, but he'll get there...lol :)







Lastly, my Prince Charming and my Bubbs...Well Prince Charming has been busy at work and school, he only has 2 more classes and he'll have his Masters in Project Management! YEAH!!! It's only been 10 years and counting...haha He's an amazing father and friend. He's been there to support me through all this drama with the kids and has really been a source of stability for me. He never seizes to amaze me, he's a great father, friend and husband! And he's sooo cute!!!
And as far as the Bubbs, well he's just about to start soccer buddies again, and special needs swim lessons and he's currently on a Special Need's T-ball team!!! He's busy busy busy!! He loves hanging out with his friends at the mall for lunch and has really started talking! Today he said "Mom, more chippies...PLEASE!!!" such good manners...lol

And as far as me...well I'm just hanging out...waiting for the next thing to start!!! I love doing photography and can't wait to see where that takes me in the next year...be ready soon for some BIG NEWS!!!
LOVE TO YOU ALL!!!!

4 comments:

Judah aka Prince Charming said...

Great update baby. Thanks for all your support and love while I go crazy! You are so wonderful and I am so thankful everyday that I have you in my life as my wife, the mother of my children and my best friend!!

Bethany said...

Oh goodness, I have to follow up after the hubs. Judah ... just make sure you don't go taking no broad to lunch. Haha.

Love the update girl. You did what you needed to do for Hailey and that is that. I've never heard of such friggin drama in my life!

Jayvier is a star!

And I'm loving these pics of Judah and Jaemen ... how friggin cute is that.

And ummm I know the news ... I know it! Helllooo, call me! LOL

Shell said...

Great post, friend... You Moraleses are pretty great. I think I'll keep ya. xoxo

datri said...

Man, don't you just hate mommy cliques? Barf. I thought that was all left behind in high school. Glad you are moving on! Glad the kiddos and hubs are doing great!